Thank you for Not Watering The Envy

We sometimes compare ourselves to others so we can relate to them or measure our value among them.

This can be a precarious activity if we do not remember there are also many individual differences among us.

When you compare yourself to another as a measurement of your own success in the world, you will almost always find someone who reflects your inadequacies as well as your superiority in some ability.

If this is your primary measuring tool for your self image, you’re gonna find that you spend a lot of time standing in front of a cloudy mirror, trying to see something that does not exist.

This can make you unhappy, lost in foggy judgment, and blinded by envy.

Envy is like Ivy.

It can grow around those things you wish for yourself while strangling the life out of another’s joy.

This Ivy is rooted in the fear that one may not have the capacity to be a certain way, or obtain their own desires.

It can insidiously grow into a destructive vine that wraps around a heart and blocks the sunlight from nurturing true self awareness and gratitude for one’s blessings.

To experience envy of another’s success is like watering a vine that will inevitably choke your own garden.


~ by leakelley on February 11, 2010.

One Response to “Thank you for Not Watering The Envy”

  1. Thank you for the words.
    it is not a sin i have bad charater flaw i have thought of.

    Envy (also called invidiousness) may be defined as an emotion that “occurs when a person lacks another’s (perceived) superior quality, achievement, or possession and either desires it or wishes that the other lacked it.”[1]

    Envy can also derive from a sense of low self-esteem that results from an upward social comparison threatening a person’s self image: another person has something that the envier considers to be important to have. If the other person is perceived to be similar to the envier, the aroused envy will be particularly intense, because it signals to the envier that it just as well could have been he or she who had the desired object.[2][3]

    Bertrand Russell said envy was one of the most potent causes of unhappiness.[4] It is a universal and most unfortunate aspect of human nature because not only is the envious person rendered unhappy by his envy, but also wishes to inflict misfortune on others. Although envy is generally seen as something negative, Russell also believed that envy was a driving force behind the movement towards democracy and must be endured in order to achieve a more just social system.

    Now i wonder how far that rabbit whole goes.

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