Thank You for “Here For You” and “There For You”
Some people say “I’m here for you.”
Others say “I’m there for you.”
Neither of these responses makes a better friend, they just cultivate different expectations, in regard to available support.
Well intentioned people are there for you.
Truly committed people are here for you.
“There” has the connotation of effort on your part, you have to go there.
“Here” seems readily available, more accessible, you already are here.
If you are telling a friend about a goal you have, an idea, a plan, or an event in your life, the friend may say I’m there for you.
That means they’ll be around later, once you’ve put things into action.
Or maybe they’ll be there after you did the work and they will cheer you on at the finish line.
That same friend may say I’m here for you.
That means they are willing to actually participate in your process or put some effort into helping you get to the finish line.
Sometimes it’s more comforting to have someone be there for me.
I can take the steps I need to take, and feel good knowing someone will be there for feedback when I get finished.
Sometimes—when I get overwhelmed, I need someone to be here for me.
You know, someone to tangibly help me with the process, or teach me something, or work with me on the little steps to there.
I am, sometimes, here and there with my friends.
But no one can be Here,There, and Everywhere at the same time.
No one can be in all places or be all things at all times for anyone else.
That can over extend and dilute one’s support capacity.
It can end up going Nowhere.