Thank You for Finding What You’re Looking For and Getting What You Want

I like that saying; If you want to know what you really want, look at what you have.


I also like the saying; You will find what you’re looking for.

Sometimes life is like a great art gallery, with thousands of objects to focus on—some beautiful, some not so much.

Perceptions are subjective but reality is what it is, whether you see it or not.

And the reality is that you do have a choice about the objects you walk up to and explore.

Of course, we must take innate temperaments and environmental influences into consideration when we look at the choices we make, but beyond those things, we do exercise our own will to see what we want to see.

There are folks that find beauty wherever they go.

There are others who primarily ponder the flaws in the fabric of life.

These folks can come across a magnificent painting and be completely absorbed by a crooked letter in the signature of the artist, never getting to the value of the art.

They want to see what’s wrong about something for various reasons that a psychological professional can specify better than I can.

But I think it may have something to do with the need to be right or superior to those around them.

I can’t know.

There are also people who blame their limitations and deficiencies on things external to themselves.

They can’t seem to get what they want out of life.

I contend that these people do have exactly what they *want.

*Something to complain about so they can be justified in their status of blamelessness and lack of personal responsibility.


It’s a stretch to get beyond our emotionally subjective perspectives to include a broader view of ourselves and the world around us.

But if you go lookin’ for beauty, you will find it.

If you decide that you can live your life with joy and that others will happily support you, you will and they will.

You may not be able to control reality but you have the absolute power to control where you point your magnifying glass while you’re looking for what you want to see.

~ by leakelley on November 13, 2013.

4 Responses to “Thank You for Finding What You’re Looking For and Getting What You Want”

  1. Beauty… I see it in the simplest of things… a child skipping down the sidewalk, a lone bird gliding in just one space in the sky, even in the hurt that we feel in life there is an element of beauty.

    Choice… Steinbeck’s novel, East of Eden, has the main theme of choice: timshel (It’s a Hebrew word and if you google it the first link that pops up is the excerpt of the book that explains what it means.) Because of that theme, East of Eden is my all time favorite book.

    I’m going through a really hard time, and at first, reading this post made me feel almost bad, guilty even, for feeling the way I do. But then I realized that I do have the choice to do everything I can to “get better” and to go looking for beauty, as you put it. And that… that is very encouraging.

  2. we do have a choice and i think we forget that a lot of the time since it is easier to blame something else

    nice reflection =]

  3. You have said much better than the researchers: We can choose to be happy. I had never heard your quote, “If you want to know what you really want, look at what you have.” How true that rings. I don’t think I will ever forget it. Your contention that negative people have exactly what they want opens windows to a new way of thinking, too. But you are always insightful and teach us new things or ways of looking at old. So glad you picked up the blog again.

  4. I like that quote, too, and had never heard of it. But it’s so true, and yet so many of us (and I’m guilty of doing it at times) look outside ourselves for fulfillment. I wonder if it’s envy.

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