Thank you for Zero Tolerance for Anti Social Revelations.
I had a life altering revelation yesterday.
Or maybe it’s an existential social dilemma. I can’t tell but it looked like the following sentence:
There are some individuals with whom I shall never have anything in common other than mortality.
I have always thought I preferred the company of individuals and considered the masses of nameless humans in my society to be a blur around me unless I met them face to face, one on one, up close and personal.
I tried to interact with as many individuals as I could jam into a day to prove that everyone was equally qualified for friendship.
Maybe I was just trying to banish my sense of aloneness in some way, or in need of validation that I was the one qualified for friendship.
I used to spend hours with any given person, genuinely interested in every thought they had and any feeling they wanted to share.
I am now finding such conversations to be painfully redundant.
I don’t know what happened. Have I become redundant?
Now I like human beings in general—you know, as a species, but I don’t really get much illumination from individuals anymore.
Is it just that the longer a person lives the more each individual seems like all other individuals—predictable? Is my once open mind slamming shut?
Do I need to romanticize Humanity in general as preferable to intimate conversations because personal conversations are beginning to get on my ever thankful nerves? Am I becoming antisocial?
I am disenchanted with complaining, myopic narratives, and social Grobians, pretending to be unique.
I am chagrinned at the self absorption of people who think a good conversation is only one in which they are the focal point or so right about some subject that it prevents them from trying another one.
I am disturbed by the lack of social skills in regard to introducing people to one another or asking about another or even offering a nod of acknowledgment to another. Is this just in my own immediate environment or is it a world wide epidemic that CNN forgot to report?
Up until now, I have justified certain objectionable social behaviors and attributed them to, oh, sensitivity, or shyness, or a tumultuous childhood, or some random characteristic that would alleviate individuals in my sphere from responsibility for poor interpersonal skills.
I’m over it.
No more tolerance toward folks who just don’t play well with others or include others in their peripheral vision as significant enough to inquire about.
I think maybe I don’t want to play anymore, myself. I’m weary of probing beyond the surface to find the quality. I want to see it up front.
Am I not meeting the right people? Am I not the right people?
I have acquired some genuine life long friends and I am thankful for that, but I don’t know if I got it in me to make any new ones out of some of the folks I am encountering lately.
Maybe it’s just that our present society puts so much pressure on an individual that one can not break away from self to actually peek over the “I” glasses at others?
Maybe the competition to be exceptional, or special is so great that others are regarded as a disposable audience for the “look at me” or “look at my stuff” individual.
Are we breeding a society of big babies that never grow into adults with social graces or concern for the needs and feelings of others unless it serves to better their own self image?
Am I so arrogant as to say I don’t want to baby-sit any adult ?
Okay, so here’s the real revelation part:
The above diatribe was written by a woman who evidently needs just one self actualized, socially integrated, unselfish, happy person to say “Hello” to prove her wrong.
She evidently was effected by some kind of social mishap. Or maybe just one single person with a giant negative attitude or very bad manners cast a shadow over her sunny disposition.
Perhaps this woman is temporarily jaded and limited by her own cage of gray clouds?
Help! Somebody lemme outta here!
Remind me, show me, tell me something good.
I know you are out there and I would be so thankful to hear an authentic Hello today.
~ by leakelley on April 24, 2009.