Thank You for Five, Count ’em, Five Quality Minutes
A person will say more if you give them a limit of five minutes. It’s true!
It has come to my recent attention that the telephone is not my friend, and the cell phone is becoming my down right enemy.
I don’t know the statistics on brain tumors from cell phones but I do know that prattling on the phone can steal a person’s soul and borrow time they will never get back—right up there with television.
And can I just say—I ain’t got that much time left, even if I live another fifty years.
I have unconsciously been hangin’ out with some of my friends on the phone saying absolutely nothin’.
One of them lives just two blocks from me and I see her almost daily.
Here’s an example of the time thief conversations:
I got nothin’
It’s really cold outside , huh?
I’m still in my pajamas
I got a cup of coffee
My cat looks sooo cute right now!
Mine’s all curled up on the bed
I gotta buy groceries today
Yeah, I should too
You gotta work today?
What’s the plan?
Yeah, me neither…
Okaaaaay! That’s just painful when it’s put in writing.
Why am I spending so much time on the phone if I’ve got nothing to say?
Because I think I’m a multi-tasker and that I am spending quality time with the people I love by mumbling into a phone while I am dealing with the tasks at hand— you know, driving, doing the dishes, building the eighth wonder of the world, and disconnecting the detonator from a bomb that could wipe out the entire city in a moment—the everyday stuff.
But I am not spending quality time with my loved ones in this anxiety inducing activity.
I am merely bleeding my life force—and theirs into a receiver that won’t give it back.
Here’s how it should go:
I still love you today but I don’t have anything to talk about.
I’m just going to do what I do every day.
Is your cat still cute?
Okay, then shall we chat when World events dictate there is something that has altered our reality as we know it?
Okay, bye bye
What I realize, inspired by a genuine phone conversation with another friend, is that I am afraid to say “I don’t want to talk on the phone.”
I am afraid to say ”My time is valuable, even if I am only day dreaming or doing something deemed unimportant to others.”
I am afraid to say “ Let’s focus here. Let’s remind each other that we are thinking about one another and hang up.”
I am afraid to say “ I would rather give you my undivided attention for five minutes of conversation than to drain your soul and mine with empty cell phone minutes.”
I am afraid to not answer the phone because it might be important.