Thank You for Abolishing Self-Servitude

Serve:  To be of use; to answer a purpose; to suffice; to suit; to be convenient or favorable.

Servitude: The state of voluntary or compulsory subjection to a master;  the condition of a slave; slavery; bondage; hence, a state of slavish dependence.


The sudden awareness of one’s motivations and previously unrecognized personal agendas in interacting with others can make all the difference in how these two terms play out in the dramas that are our lives.

When we learn to recognize our own patterns of behavior and the reasons they manifest in our relationships, the drama of the consequent results becomes far more interesting and far less traumatic.

When we operate under the illusion that we are not responsible for the way people respond to us or act toward us or treat us, we are living in Self-Servitude. This is enslaving us to fulfill prophesies that we create from the myths that we believe about ourselves.

Those myths may be: 

“I can not have an intimate relationship with someone I truly care about because it always ends badly.” 

or “Everyone I really love rejects me in the end.” 

or “I am just not the relationship type, I’m a lone wolf.” 

or “I cannot let myself be vulnerable because I will be rejected.”

or “No one actually loves me for me, they just want something from me.”

People hate to be wrong. They will always attempt to prove what they believe will eventually happen, thus reenforcing that they are right. They go to astonishing lengths to be right. They will do very interesting things to make the above myths true.

It amazes me the extent of self-servitude that can be applied to the Master of our beliefs about ourselves and others.

The bonds of self-servitude can only be broken when one frees oneself by looking the Master in the eye and saying “ You will not run the show anymore. You are not the boss of me. I will now find a path that serves me.”

Then we are free to serve the worthy parts of ourselves and others without cultivating crisis and drama.

Living is a lot less stressful when being of service replaces self-servitude.



~ by leakelley on June 21, 2008.

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